"ARE MEN READY TO LISTEN TO WOMEN'S WISDOM?"
Dominique Glaub, Ph.D.
Because of history and abusive past experiences, there are a lot of negative connotations attached to relationships and marriage, and for good reasons I shall say. It is absolutely normal for women to be wary of entering a relationship with a man after having experienced mistrust, betrayal, emotional hurt, abuse, manipulation, control, impossible communication, disappointment, etc. But it is no reason for believing that it can't change. We live in a time when the man is finally ready to listen to the woman's wisdom. So are you ready to bring your wisdom to the relationship?
In today's society, what we are ignoring is that men and women are spiritually designed to function, not as competitors or victim/aggressor, but as a mutually supportive team joined for the purpose of balancing each other's energy, and successfully manifesting together what is wanted and needed on a material level. When unified and bonded, a man and a woman are a magnificent force much more powerful than a single individual. The major challenges in realizing a bonded relationship is the lack of trust in the power of the unit, the lack of awareness of the male and female's "energetic roles" within the relationship, and the fundamental differences of men and women at a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level.
The story about Martha and Fred illustrates, in a humorous way, what men and women's different focus is on a daily basis, and the misunderstandings it brings about in the couple's interaction. While males are using male/yang thought-particles to approach, understand and fix the world they live in, women are using yin/female thought particles. Problems arise between them because they both believe that their partner is living and perceiving the world in the same manner as they do, and that goes also for the way they communicate. Male and female energy is equal, but quite different in nature although complementary and indispensible to each other for creation to take place. When in balance, the creative force is at its optimum. The use of male/yang energy tends to make a man or a woman more linear, logical, goal-oriented, a builder and destroyer totally concerned with the physical world. The use of female energy tends to make a woman or men more invested in her/his relationship to others; more communication-oriented, intuitive, sensitive, creative, nurturing, a healer concerned with spiritual matters and/or matters of the heart. As a rule women have more female energy in them, and men more male energy. But of course it varies with each person. We have lost the precious knowledge of what a unit is and how to achieve it, who we are as male and female, who our partner is energetically-speaking, and how to bring balance and authenticity to the unit. As silly as it sounds both men and women need to re-learn the art of mating and relating before being able to create and maintain an healthy relationship. Both need to do their work as far as understanding and applying the spiritual laws of relationships to create a successful relationship.
Societal relationships today may be at their worst as to harmony but that doesn't mean that a women and a man can't have a relationship that is a success. The difference between being a social failure in relationship and being a happy, successful one is KNOWING THE SELF. For woman, the suggestion is to know who you are, know what your "energetic role" as a female is, know how to manage a unit successfully. Discover the real you as the female and what that means. There is an art to being a productive, healthy, and happy female bonded to a man. The female is a dynamic, nurturing, gathering, healing force endowed with access to higher levels of awareness through her intuition. By learning how to be the managing force in her relationship, the glue holding the unit together, and the wisdom to be listened to, she has the power to co-create the relationship she wants, bring the man she loves to his truth, enjoy a comfortable material life, and at the same time express herself creatively in the world!
- Dominique Glaub, Ph.D.
Published in Women Network Magazine, June 2001
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